Who or What?

Sometimes my forward momentum grinds to a halt because I start to think my goals may be too farfetched and my expectations too great. I get distracted by comparison thinking, burnout, or doubts about what I truly have to offer or what I can do. Or I get another great idea that is so much better than the current great idea I’m working on, and I change course before I allow the first great idea to fully manifest.

So, to make a change, I decided that this year was about keeping my commitments to myself and to my goals. Despite the doubt and despite the flood of ideas that demand my attention. In her book The Pivot Year Briana Wiest writes about those dreams that seem “beyond your capacity to hold, beyond your ability to manifest.” She says setting those bigger-than-life goals begins the journey of stepping into who you need to be, and that “you will realize, in the end, that the point wasn’t really whether or not you ever arrived but who you became in the process.”

When we goals that seem out of our reach, we have to reach. We have to find the courage to keep going, to stay committed in times of doubt and disappointments. We have to become a person who could persevere and achieve those goals.

So, when we are feeling stuck, maybe it is the time to focus on who we need to be to accomplish the big dreams. Adopting this perspective allows us to shift and take control over our perspective and our mindset. We may not be able to control all of the things that have happened to us, or where we have ended up in life, and it definitely is not always easy. But feeling stuck is just as difficult.

Stay committed to the journey.

Attend to the small things in our lives.

Embrace the present moment and start from there.

Learn to manage distracting thoughts and difficult emotions.

Begin to build trust in ourselves.

Perhaps when we feel stuck, the key is to focus inward. Rather than focusing on the outcome, the thing that is out there, we focus inwards, on who is taking us on this journey and who we can become along the way.

We might not always reach the pinnacle of our desires, there may be things that we let go of, and paths that we leave behind. But focusing on who want we can be might just be the first step out of the stuckness.

Journal Prompt:
Who do you want to be in this moment?

What kind of person reaches the goals that you set for yourself?